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Do you have a hobby you want to share? Part 1

A friend of mine asked me about how to share their interests with others. I told them about blogging. They have read other people’s blogs, but they didn’t know how to go about starting a blog themselves. So I was explaining to them the basics of blogging, and it got me thinking about writing a small series about the subject to help them and anyone else who may be wondering how to go about it.

Blogging can be about a specific topic or various things. If you are looking to convert your blog into an income- generating hobby then click the link at the end of this post.

The first thing you need to think about is a name for your blog. It has to be a name that is easy to remember and, therefore, easily searchable. ‘The Little African Beauty Room’ was originally the name of my physical beauty business, and I didn’t intend it to be a blog. The name is a bit longer than is ideal for a blog, but I didn’t want to change it as I had over 1,000 ex- clients who used to come for treatment and been accustomed to searching it on Google when they wanted to book an appointment. But for your blog, you need something simple and catchy. Write down a few names on a piece of paper and ask your friends and family what they think of the name. Then write a short bio  and what your blog is about. I would recommend no more than 500 words. Then click on this link: http://wordpress.com/refer-a-friend/rL2xVq7FWx7jk37XZOgm

to register your blog name which is called a domain name. Once you have done that the link  will take you to a dashboard where you can read step- by- step instructions on writing and publishing your first masterpiece.

And  don’t forget to follow ‘The Little African Beauty Room’ to get the next in the series.

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How to make a Friends

My daughter asked me; ’Mummy, how do you make friends?’ All my children’s lives, I have been a very protective mother. And this has meant that when they went to Playgroup or Nursery if I wasn’t comfortable with a child’s parents my kids played with then the friendship would not go beyond the playground.  I left home at the age of 15 and growing up in a domestically violent home I knew what it was like not having anyone to protect me. Because of that I have always felt that one of my responsibilities as a mother is to protect my kids and make sure they are only around safe people.

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This level of overprotection has meant that my kids didn’t  make friends on their own. I would speak to the parents for a few months and watch how my kids played with their children in the  playground, or I would ask the teacher to give me a report on how my children interacted with the other kids and then I would approach the parent(s) and ask if they would be okay to organize a play- date.

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I don’t hang out with the parents of my children’s  friends, but I like to know that if there are issues about the friendship and they can’t resolve them, we, the parents, can ask the children what happened and try to help them resolve things without leaving any resentment. And my children have kept all their friends from Nursery, Primary school up through the years.

So when my eldest daughter was starting High School I told her ‘now you are on your own when it comes to making friends and try to keep them.’

So this is why she asked me the question  about making friends. I told her ‘ I know many people but not everyone is my friend.’  She said ‘Mum, I watch you when we go shopping and you start talking to a lady for a long time and then you tell her we can talk some more give me your number and I will text you.’

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I told her she was right. If I feel it is someone I want to get to know then I will give my number or take theirs, but sometimes we text and then we both find that we don’t have anything in common so they become my acquaintance. We text occasionally but we won’t hang out.

I gave her this example: I went clothes shopping one day and started chatting with this lady for  about half – an – hour and then suggested we exchange numbers. We contacted each other and we started to learn about one another. We learned that both of us  worked in similar industries  and then both chose to be stay- at- home mums. Then we started giving each other advice on relationships, kids etc. And then we became friends.

I told my daughter when she started at High School if there is a  girl you want be friends with but are not sure about then write your number down and give it to her. If she starts texting you that is a good sign and you can learn about each other.

So, she took my advice. She was scared but she did it. Since the lockdown, her friends have been calling her and texting her. There is only one rule😂😂. No boys are allowed to text or call her.

Friendship is a wonderful gift. Friends make us laugh and cry; friends can teach us how to share, compromise and handle some conflicts that your family can’t help you with. We learn from a very young age that talking is one of the great benefits of friendship. But what happens when friendship withers and fades? As we get older this seems to happen. Friends move away or they get into relationships that take them away.

It is a fact of life that even some very close friendships somehow come to an end. You may have experienced that sadness and sense of loss. If so, you can start afresh.

The key to making friends is talk to people: at work, the supermarket, anywhere. Preferably people of your own age, sexual orientation, life experiences etc.

But talk, and see what happens.

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A Great Way to Treat Your Face

This treatment is suitable for both men and women. But we acknowledge that it has not been proven scientifically. But many health-conscious people and beauty blogs are into it.

I got into homemade beauty treatments because of my two daughters. I wanted them to treat their skin without damaging it.

Rice flour, Egg and Coconut oil

An egg white face mask is good for treating acne, dry, oily and pallid skin.

I have to admit some of my homemade beauty and hair treatments haven’t always gone down well with my daughters 😂. I have been banned by my girls from making a particular hair gel.

They were  embarrassed when gnats were attracted by the gel. They came home from school yelling and telling me how much they hated my homemade products. So if you are using any homemade beauty or hair products on your kids make sure they don’t leave your house without first having tried them out for a reasonable amount of time.

And always  do a patch test on any homemade or purchased beauty product to make sure you (or they) are not allergic.

If you want to read about what hair products my girls banned me from using  why not leave a comment to request it. And if I get ten or more responses I will write a post about it (and whilst you are about it, please click to subscribe.)

Now, before you use the face mask I recommend that you:

1. Cleanse your skin with a good cleanser to remove any build- up of dirt or other nasties.

2. Exfoliate with your usual exfoliating product.

Here’s how to make your homemade egg, vaseline and rice flour face mask.

Whisk together in a clean bowl 1 tbsp of  coconut, 1 egg, 1 tbsp of rice flour.

Now

1. Apply the mask to your face using a face brush or your hands

2. Leave the mask on your skin for about 10-15minutes.

3.Give your face a quick rinse with lukewarm water to open your pores and to finish with quick splash of cold water to close the pores.

4. Pat dry.

5.Moisture your face as usual.

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Make money by writing for magazines

My friend who is an established writer was telling me how she made money when she first started writing. I decided to follow what she did. I am sharing it with you. It won’t make you rich, but you will earn a bit while slowly establishing yourself as a blogger and growing your followers.

She told me about the ‘Tips’ and ‘Filler’ pages in magazines. Magazines need writers to contribute tips and fillers.

They are a good avenue for bloggers because when you write your blog you are sort of doing the same thing.

With a magazine, the word count is usually fewer than 100 words. You are probably doing more than that already so you have the material and will have to cut it.

I remember sending my first tip to ‘Myweekly’ and getting a letter with a cheque for £25.

I was so nervous walking to the supermarket to buy a copy of the magazine and then checking the page to see my little piece of writing.  Another woman picked up a copy. This made me so excited and I started telling her that I had written the tip on such and such a page. She was kind enough to say ‘I look forward to reading that section.’

I don’t write tips and fillers that regularly, but I have written to many different women’s magazines and have been published. But the rejections hurt. After my first published piece, I got too confident for my own good, and I didn’t research other magazines as well as I had with my first success. So I got about 6 rejections in a row and then I learned my lesson.

Each magazine has its own audience. Their readers buy the magazine because it speaks the language of its readers and your fillers and tips have to adapt to that language.

There are many magazines from around the world and they pay from £10 to £60 depending on the publication.

So if you’re looking to make money that isn’t related to an online scam just read through your favourite magazine and look for the page that invites readers to send in fillers, tips or photos for publication. The more tips you write the more your brain starts coming up with new ideas.

Here’s a picture of the last tip I had published by ’Pick Me Up’ magazine on 2nd May 2019.

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Click on Link to get your copy

 

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Banana hair-mask treatment

Have you got some overipe bananas that nobody wants to eat? Don’t throw them away. My kids love their fruits including bananas, but from time-to-time some gets left too long. When a banana or two is left over that is when I get to treat my hair.

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My Afro hair is very dry, but a good  banana hair- mask provides it with much- needed vitamins B6, C and also potassium.

Bananas are known to be really good for treating your hair and scalp. They also good for preventing and controlling dandruff.

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I like to give my hair a good banana hair-mask treatment in the morning before having my shower.

All you need to make one are some overipe bananas, and, if you are feeling adventurous, you can add olive oil and coconut oil.

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Here is what to do:

1.Put the bananas in the blender ( adding the olive and coconut oil, if desired) Blend until it turns into a paste.

2. Apply the paste to your hair with a brush or your hands.

3.Wrap with a shower cap or cling film.

4. Leave to dry for about  20mins

4. Rinse your hair and condition as usual.

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Do you know how to increase followers on WordPress? Part 2

This is the continuation of my earlier blog. 

Another thing that is recommended to increase followers is social media. I don’t have Facebook or Instagram. But I do have Twitter, LinkedIn and Pinterest. They are linked to my WordPress account so all my posts get shared there automatically.

When I was running my business, word- of- mouth was how I got my clients. I also went businesses networking. Meeting people face- to- face and doing voluntary jobs got me clients. As a single mum, I wanted to make effective use of my time. So when I met someone I would let them know about my business. I didn’t let shyness stop me. I would ask them if they could make use of my services. Some said ‘yes’ some said ‘no’.

I wasn’t shy, but I was authentic.
It is the same with social media. Building an authentic relationship with people will help you reduce the amount of hours you spend on social media.
You are not going to become viral in one article. It takes dedication, patience and authenticity.

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Listening

Sitting on a mesh garden chair stained by old bird poo

Listening to the neighbours’ kids crying over something or other

Listening to the morning glory of birds chatting to one another

I know they’re a-chatting

One whistles and after a second or two the other whistles back

There are other birds chatting, but these two are distinct

It’s like listening to my girlfriend and me chatting

We give each other a few seconds to reply

We chat for hours over unimportant matters

We have been chatting like this for well over twenty-four years

And listening to these two birds there was something familiar

The same pitch of whistling from one to the other

I can’t see them because the garden trees now have beautiful green leaves

I have listening for about 20 minutes

No sound of them stopping anytime soon

It’s quite beautiful really

Me listening

Me being this silent for this long without uttering a word, first thing in the morning

It’s times like this I need to remind myself ‘Just listen’

 

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The Terrible Twos

I wrote this poem when my first child, started her terrible twos. I was frustrated and I needed to release that frustration and anger and writing poetry is how find my release. Hope you enjoyed.

Today, I have learned the meaning of patience

Today, you have tested me

Today, you refused to eat

Today, you refused to have bath

Today, I am left me feeling as if I have been wounded

Today, this powerful battle seems never-ending

Today, lunch is not on your mind

Today, dinner has made me understand why so many lose their temper

But, today, I have decided to remain calm

Yes, I feel angry

But, I know that it is not your fault

The terrible twos have kicked in.

 

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How to recycle wine bottles

I am not a big drinker of alcohol, but I love to have a nice glass of red or white wine (depending on what meal I am eating.) So I don’t normally have many empty bottles around. But there are occasions when I throw quite big parties and have guests (before the lockdown) and I end up with a lot of ’empties’.

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Often, I will wash the bottles and use them as candle holders, but there are only so many candle holders you need and so much space you have to put them.

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However, in the spirit of wanting to save the planet earth, I came up with this solution. I wash the bottles and then pour dry grains into them: rice, semolina, lentils, couscous, popcorn (yes, we will count popcorn as a dry grain). It works really well. The bottles look nice, they keep the contents clean and free from creepy-crawlies and I have done my bit for the environment.

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With Love  from Ines

 

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From Me To You

I will always love you ❤️

No matter what our differences are

You

My love; yes, you have opened my eyes

You have shown me life

I shall never forget you

You will always be in my thoughts.

 

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